Optimize Links
For example if link is
www.domain.com/blog
make sure you write it as
www.domain.com/blog/
to prevent one extra request which would be made to the server if the former link is used.
most people overlook one of the largest problems with website performance
DNS
If you don’t have it set up properly, all the optimizations listed above will only help a little.
1 - make sure all your DNS servers listed in your whois records actually work.
2 - Make sure all your DNS servers respond in a timely manner.
3 - Make sure your whois records have at least 2 DNS servers
and that they are are in completely different subnets.
1) Set the http headers to set the expiration timeframe
5) Add your css to the top of your head tag, and your javascripts to the bottom of your body tag.

12) Instead of XML consider JSON if its posible

15) Cache your sql results

Caching!
wp-cache
combine images, like icons and othersuch small files (under 1-2k) into a single file